Guarding yourself is not so bad. When you are guarded, you feel protected. When you are guarded and distant that is where the problem lies. It’s ok to protect yourself, it’s not ok to push people away in the process of protecting yourself. Loneliness comes in when you push people away, now you personalize your loneliness.
No one wants to be around me, no one likes me, people are talking about me etc… think, for a moment. Did I push people away? Did I close the door to others who potentially may care for me? Am I allowing my past hurts to bleed into my present moment?
I have been here. I have shut the door many times because of past hurts. If anything remotely reminded me of my trauma, If there was even an inkling of a behavioral pattern in someone the door would close. I have been told my cut off game is very strong. I don’t take pride in this. This isn’t Godly whatsoever. God calls us to communion, He calls us to gather, He calls us to confess our sins to one another and to love one another.
You see, but this has been abused by many hence why many live guarded. How about we try to put our guard down just a little bit? How about we stop hiding behind closed doors and punishing ourselves into a place of loneliness? How about we stop hurting others because we are personally feeling rejection, Which can potentially put up your guard.
Not everyone is out to hurt you. I personally feel that there are good people in this world. I’d like to categorize myself as a “good people” I have been hurt so many times. In fact, I have been told I am a masochist when it comes to hurt because I still do what I do.
God says his grace is sufficient! Why does our grace run dry if grace is sufficient?
2nd Corinthians 12:9 “But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness'”
