One of the biggest lies told is what happens at home stays at home. As parents we wonder why our children become secretive. Perhaps it’s because of what they hear and see. Perhaps it’s a matter of trained behavior, rather than learned behavior.
I have allowed my children to have outside sources, why would I train them to hide? What am I hiding? Why as a parent or a couple, hide? Am I saying everyone should know your business? No. The Bible tells us not to cast our pearls amongst swine. In Matthew 7:6 Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast your pearls before the swine, lest haply they trample them under their feet, and turn and rend you.
What I am saying is stop the trend of controlling your children. We all need an outlet. A happy home is not a hidden home. You may think you are protecting your family, but what you are really doing is setting your children up to navigate through life alone when they are older.
What makes a happy home? a home filled with Jesus! Laughter, talks, gatherings, meal time talks, night time stories, creating a bond between you all in where no enemy can divide. My children are loyal, to one another and my husband and I. Why? Not because we have instilled fear in them, but, because we have shown them love, grace, and the concept of fighting for the “Family Win” we fight for our last name not our first.
Dysfunctional families argue all the time, they turn on one another, betray, sneak, create issues, lack loyalty or accountability etc… stop this trend. Stop the enemy form plaguing your home. Let us live off the scripture that says in
Joshua 24:15 15 But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”
Your home is your sanctuary. Break generational curses by showing your family PEACE.
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This, is so true. I had difficulty building relationships because of this being taught to me as a child. I was told to keep my mouth closed or else. I was guilty in Celeste younger years of teaching her to never open up to people. Happily, now to report I have taught her about not casting her pearls among swine, to discern who to trust and that it is okay if she does not feel comfortable sharing certain things to find a trusted big sister in Christ or adult to talk to. I am not threatened I love when she seeks Godly counsel, not what she wants to hear. This is beautifully and authentically truly stated. Thank you for pouring out wisdom
wow ! this is good and right on time . thankyou for sharing this 🕊️🫶🏻
This is so good and right on time. My parents to this day are still very secretive. I have a sibling who was in a relationship for 11 years and at the same time lived in different homes. Under their own roof they were hiding a whole family nobody knew about in shame. We always knew this sibling as private so we were totally blindsided. The being secretive and hiding has carried on over to this sibling. Broke a lot of our hearts, including the heart of the person they were with for 11 years when it all came out. Hoping to meet the secret family soon and for this to be a lesson that the truth does set one free.
I absolutely LOVE this!!!! 🫶🏽